Men's Health runs a dating advice column for men, called a href="http://blogs.menshealth.com/single-girl"MH Single Girl/a. A recent post had the promising title, "a href="http://blogs.menshealth.com/single-girl/how-to-flirt-at-the-gym/2010/08/31/"How to flirt at the gym/a". So far so good. Gyms are great places to meet women. Except her story goes like this:br /br /Guy who is 6'4, hot, former pro athlete, successful movie producer, in great shape, easy, successful lifestyle, walks into the gym.br /br /Columnist notices him right away from the other side of the room.br /br /He smiles at her.br /br /She smiles back.br /br /They talk. She gives phone number.br /br /And...presto! Wasn't that easy? Put away your copy of the a href="http://www.lovesystems.com/magic-bullets"Magic Bullets Handbook/a (or, if you're really old school, the a href="http://www.lovesystems.com/venusian-arts-handbook"Venusian Arts Handbook/a) and go the gym. You're good to go.br /br /Especially awesome advice about smiling. That's important. And much harder to do than to turn yourself into a former-pro-athlete-cum-movie-producer. I mean, every day we're swamped with guys at Love Systems saying:br /br /span style="font-style: italic;""I'm really hot. When I smile at girls across a crowded gym full of people and noise, they notice me and smile back. I'm a former pro athlete. I'm rich. I am a movie producer. I have an easy lifestyle. What do I need to do to be attractive to women?"/spanbr /br /And of course, the answer, now revealed by Men's Health, is:br /br /span style="font-style: italic;""Smile"/spanbr /br /I'm sure Kate (the writer)span style="font-style: italic;" span style="font-style: italic;"span style="font-style: italic;"/span/span/spanis a very sweet woman, and it seems she means well, but to me this is a common flaw is getting dating advice from women. For one thing, ask a woman about what a guy should do in a given situation, and she'll usually think of a guy she is span style="font-style: italic;"already /spanattracted to. (Credit: TD) So yeah, tall hot athlete can smile at her and hold eye contact and she smiles back. Average guy smiles at her at the gym and she probably turns away muttering about "creepy" guys. Typical female dating advice -- give her lots of compliments, send flowers, smile, just be yourself, etc. -- works great if she's already attracted to you.br /br /But just like the typical guy isn't asking for dating advice about situations where the girl is already way into him (span style="font-style: italic;""this girl loves me what should I do?" "Just be yourself" "OK thanks"/span), the typical guy wanting dating advice is not the pro athlete/producer guy who girls strain to check out from the other side of the gym the moment they walk in.br /br /And the other problem...and this a problem with getting dating advice from women OR men is the "everyone is just like me" problem.br /br /I think that's part of the reason Love Systems has become so popular ever since it stopped being a href="http://www.lovesystems.com/mystery-method"Mystery Method/a Corp - instead of trying to make everyone into spandex-and-furry cape-wearing 40 year old goth, we can help everyone be their span style="font-weight: bold;"best/span self. There are over a href="http://www.lovesystems.com/bios"30 instructors with Love Systems/a, from 20 to 47, white, black, East Asian, South Asian, Hispanic, living in twelve countries on four continents with different lifestyles, backgrounds, and interests.br /br /We're not like each other and what some of what works for me wouldn't work for, say, a href="http://www.lovesystems.com/soul"Jeremy Soul /aand vice versa. The stuff that works for everyone, we can confidently release (e.g., in the a href="http://www.lovesystems.com/magic-bullets"Magic Bullets Handbook/a) and the stuff that only works for some people, well, we pull that out in our a href="http://www.lovesystems.com/training-programs/"live PUA training/a, so we know what you, specifically, need.br /br /span style="font-style: italic;"Update: Turns out that this single, 39-year old super-hot, super-buff, former pro athlete current movie producer rich lifestyle guy who picked Kate up at the gym and who made no commitment to her whatsoever beyond a casual date a href="http://blogs.menshealth.com/single-girl/the-curse-of-the-hot-man/2010/09/07/"is also interested in other women/a. No, really. (More shocking news: Rick's cafe turned a blind eye to gambling) I feel bad that she's sad, but this is starting to feel like the dating advice equivalent of taking career advice from someone who ended up as a high school guidance counsellor./spandiv class="blogger-post-footer"img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/5610487329075072890-4617434106769295035?l=therealsavoy.blogspot.com' alt='' //divimg src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/therealsavoyls/~4/HA0eUm55-mA" height="1" width="1"/
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